How Do You Receive Feedback?

How Do You Receive Feedback?

Have you ever heard the words, “I have some constructive feedback” and cringed internally knowing that statement precedes negative feedback? Of course we all know this is meant to be constructive criticism but ….

In a previous blog on 'Feedback and Mindset', I covered how organisations can make receiving feedback easier and a productive element in individual and team development. This week I wanted to speak to you - yes ‘you’ the person reading this. How do you personally receive information that is counter to what you want to hear, and/or what you are currently doing?

My Wonder Woman’s 8 Essentials for Effective Feedback

My Wonder Woman’s 8 Essentials for Effective Feedback

Today, 1st August, marks the birthday of my best friend, my wife and the most amazing Mum (and yes they are all wrapped up into one very special person). We have 10 great kids between us ranging from 10-25. We are often told we are lucky to have such good kids - while one must admit that there is a solid dash of ‘luck’, it is mixed with loads of hard work, tons of love, regular communication, quality time and lots of feedback. Watching someone juggle 10 kids, run a business and home, volunteer weekly for charity and radiate love is an honour and privilege. I thought I would share some of love and joy through the top 8 skills I have seen Kiri apply when it comes to FEEDBACK.

Feedback and Mindset

Feedback and Mindset

Hearing does not equate to understanding. Information does not equal knowledge. Feedback does not mean there will be growth. You only have to look at people who knowingly continue in destructive habits, like smoking, to know people do not always do the ‘right thing’ or even what is best for them. Effective feedback occurs when this is fully understood - sometimes people don't want to hear what they don't want to hear. This is often referred to as a fixed mindset.

Do you have a Feedback Loop?

Do you have a Feedback Loop?

"There is no failure. Only feedback." - Robert Allen
Feedback is woven into the very fabric of existence. Your brain is wired to receive, process, learn, grow and develop using feedback. You learnt to walk, talk and ride a bike by processing information received through various attempts and adapting until you mastered your new skill.

Getting Results with a PLAN that works!

Getting Results with a PLAN that works!

To plan or not to plan - that was the question being grappled with. On one side was the argument that planning never worked and on the other side that you need a plan to get where you are going. Air New Zealand came to the rescue - “I can go online and buy a ticket for for 8 months from today and they give me a flight number, time and even seat number! They don’t know what is going to happen on that day with weather, technical issues, staff, volcanoes, or anything, but they plan to deliver!” It was settled. A plan would be written.

Five Keys to Great Presentations

Five Keys to Great Presentations

“Success leaves clues” is one for my favourite quotes from “Think & Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill. When I want to learn something, I look to people who have done it well and the ‘clues’ they have left and then turn those into ‘keys’ to help others unlock their potential.

Public speaking is one of these areas. For a recent Manawatu Chamber of Commerce “Lunch & Learn” session, I presented on “How to do a great 1 hour presentation” using 5 KEYS. The feedback would indicate this is a topic many people could do with some ‘keys’ on.

Sales Skills Are Core Skills

Sales Skills Are Core Skills

Can you sell?

What one skill would help you sell more?

How much could a core sales skill be worth to you and your organisation?

Provocative questions and statements are a great way to stir people up and heighten engagement. One of my favourite questions is, “What is the most important department in this business?” In a world of equality and ‘equal rights’ etc, that can get people quite animated! Then I state, and argue, that it must be sales because if you do not sell something no other role is required.

Irrespective of your stance every business acknowledges they need sales. Who's responsible for sales in your business? Do you have a “sales mindset” that defines your culture or is sales the domain of one or two individuals or a department?

Know WHY I should buy from you!

Know WHY I should buy from you!

Of all sales confidence killers, there is one to watch for. Its danger lies in the fact that it is so common, people become comfortable in its presence. It is easy to fix. Yet it remains and festers over years, through companies, permeating and draining teams until they succumb to such normality that they do not stand apart. What is this crippling malaise that brings such despair? A lack of an answer to one simple question.

How Product Knowledge Affects Sales

How Product Knowledge Affects Sales

When I want anything to do with cell phones I go to see Michael at 2 Degrees in the Palmy Plaza. I often have to wait to see him as he is the most popular sales rep. It is worth the wait as he “knows his stuff”. Can you relate to this - having a sales rep worth waiting for, your own “go-to” person?

How many people would see you as the “go-to” person?

Sales vs Production

Sales vs Production

Internal conflict hurts sales.

I am a production manager by training. After over 13 years in the role I still can vividly recall frequent orders to make huge quantities of product with impossible timelines. It did not make me like sales people. Or the sales department.

Do your internal teams spend more time fighting or one-upping each other than working together to serve the customer?


“Build confidence in every facet of your organisation - it makes it so much easier to sell.” - Mike Clark

Are you destroying your sale reps' chances of closing sales?

It is easy to do - damage their confidence.

The truth is, selling is easy. For many people who see sales as something sleazy or pushy, this statement seems laughable. As I have written about on many occasions, sales is a process and the better this is understood the easier it is to sell (or more accurately help a client get what they want or need). There is another truth - “Sales starts in your head” and in order to sell well, we need to believe in what we sell.  Time and again this basic truth remains “Confidence sells”.

Customer Care - Creating an Experience

Word of mouth referrals remains one of the highest lead generating marketing tools of the current day. The busier we get, the more we look to friends, family and trusted referrers to help us make quick decisions. We do not have the time or the tolerance for a bad experience. The power of referrals can be seen in one of the most popular customer surveys - the Net Promoter Score (NPS). One question is asked after each interaction “Based on latest experience in dealing with us how likely are you to recommend us to a friend?”

Experience is becoming the the new accepted expectation with the benchmark tracking ever upwards. People want it quicker, easier, more personalised and intuitive, more, more more (ideally for less!) Technology can help. Paywave makes it quicker, self checkout makes it faster and more convenient, augmented reality helps us make right choices, apps allow us to engage on the go all the while prompting with suggestions and options. With the growth in AI we will soon have driverless cars and home help robots. Do we need people? Do we need teams?

I argue a resounding “Yes!” People buy from people. Notice the increase in online chat boxes? Notice how Amazon is ‘growing’ into bricks and mortar? More than just reaching out to customers in a tactile, interactive way, Amazon is investing billions in creating a workplace that will be environmentally friendly and allow team members to engage and interact in line with the “Day 1” mantra. (If you have never Googled Amazon Seattle offices, it is a sight to behold).

What about your team? Your culture? Your company focus and beliefs around the customer? Are they written up and clearly understood by everyone? Does engaging with your team “feel” different, is it “Wow those guys are amazing! They care so much”?

What experience do you want your customers to have? Many organisations have never considered this deeply enough to create a team focus and mantra that seeks to delight customers. Some have - Harrods, Zappos, Disney - and these stand out. Consider the below thoughts and questions, and work with your team to see how you can stand out:

What experience do we want customers to have?

What would we like people to say about us?

What have our competitors done so well even we hear about it & how can we go one better?

On a scale of 0-10 (where 10 is high) where would we rate our team culture?

On a scale of 0-10 (where 10 is high) where would we rate our customer experience?

How can we move closer to 10 on these two scales?

How can we engage our customers more effectively? (Asking this questions while running a kitchen showroom saw us install the only fully working showroom kitchen which occasionally brought a chef in to demonstrate and offered to clients to use to raise funds for schools. We also baked bread everyday and had fresh brewed coffee available)

How could we add more value to the customer while they were with us?

How could we and value and keep in touch after they leave? (Via social media, interesting newsletters, surveys, competitions, etc)

How can we encourage them to come back?

How do we get referrals?

How do we “WOW” them so we are the topic of the next dinner conversation?

If you would like some outside input or help in crafting your ideal customer experience do get in touch - we would love to help. Remember, customers are the lifeblood of any organisations. Create a heart of service that keeps that lifeblood healthy and flowing and business will be both pleasurable and profitable.

Team Care – 18 essentials towards a productive culture

Every business has a point of difference (POD) – the people that make the team. A company’s ability to engage it’s people and enhance the strengths they bring, underlines the culture within the team. When people feel valued, seen, acknowledged and part of something bigger, they are more engaged. Woven into the ‘fabric’ of our being is a need to be seen and heard (Which is why solitary confinement is such a tough sentence). People need to have purpose and to know that they matter and are making a (positive) difference.

Surviving and thriving in 2017

"You do not fill anything up from an empty vessel - self care ensures we have something to give." ~ Mike Clark

"You do not fill anything up from an empty vessel - self care ensures we have something to give." ~ Mike Clark

Have you set some goals for the year? Are you aiming to get and do more? Have you resolved to be more? The call of many at the start of the year is often, “Work harder, do more, call more, sell more and you will be more successful with even more to show for it all.”

This perpetual drive is what keeps companies growing and we are encouraged to apply this to our personal lives. The challenge is that all this ‘growth’ needs something to feed it – growing companies feel growth pains in their cash flow, families feel it in less time and financial stress, individuals often compromise their health and relationships. What are you prepared to give up to achieve your goals? What is the cost and will it be worth it? What have you put in place to ensure you can sustain any growth plans? Many people plan, hope and dream but without a well-rounded, sustaining approach the sacrifice and/or the pressure proves too much.

Would you be surprised to know that most new year’s resolutions are forfeited by 15th January?

Today, as I finish this article it is January the 15th and already I have heard so many people talking of ‘yet-another-resolution’ not met – often parked in the “good intentions” basket that will be reconsidered next New Year!

Whatever goals you have set for yourself this year (and even if you have set no goals) if you do not take care of yourself, all that you do could well be for nought. To be able to enjoy life, contribute to a family, a team, a company you need to be able to do so – i.e. Not stressed, snappy, irritable, depressed, burning out. How do you ensure you are looking after yourself? 

Self-care is hardly a new concept and yet the practice of it is often dismissed as being aligned with stereotypical hippie/new age people looking for alternative freedom from living in reality.

Many people do not truly value their health/relationships/job/freedom until they no longer have it.

It is possible to find a balance and look after yourself without dressing in flowery clothes or creating Zen gardens to meditate in during lunch times. (BTW if that is your ‘buzz’ – go for gold!) What is important in your life? What do you want to be known and remembered for? Are you on track now?

My first book of this year was “Soul Keeping” by John Ortberg. One of my favourite quotes from the book is, “Routine eats will-power for breakfast”. As I finished the book I read a LinkedIn post “How I went from this to a mental asylum.” The combination of both gave me my topic for the first quarter of this year – Self Care, Team Care, Client Care – we need to do it in this order.

So how do you care for yourself? Do you have a cliché answer – exercise, reading, time out, walks, time with loved ones, etc? The difference between cliché and reality can often be found in a truly life giving routine that ensures you stay fresh, sharp, vibrant, passionate, connected and able to care? As with a lot of life, the theory is often easier than the action – how do you manage it? Please share how you exercise self-care (or how you plan to exercise self-care).

I will explore self-care more next week and include the feedback I get from this week. Until then here’s to your success

How to take action


Can you relate to going on a training session, or going to a conference, or maybe even having a great internal meeting and coming away with action points. Or perhaps more accurately described as a list of ‘good intentions!’

Action, of course, is reflected in doing something - Action Changes Things.

In my field as a trainer, I know that I am just sharing information and information is only as good as the action people take as a result of having it.

Herbert Spencer said it well, “The great aim of education is not knowledge but action.” So, how can you be more effective at taking action?

There are, of course, many things you can do. First and foremost is to start with yourself and then to surround yourself with action-orientated people - create a culture of action. Do you have a culture in your organisation where people trust each other to act? Do you have an accountability system or partner? These can help hold you to the important actions rather than being swept away in the whirlwind of the urgent.

A few additional thoughts around taking action:

As a trainer I love to ask "How many of you have ever been on a training session and, giving the trainer and content their due, it was good and you left with good intentions but you failed to implement?"

Almost inevitably every hand goes up. I then ask' "What is going to make today's training any different?"

There are 2 roles in a training session. Mine is provide pertinent, relevant information in an engaging and palatable way. Yours is to take down that which applies and then act on it. "Information is only as good as the action that you take as a result of having it." Here are my 5 ACTION suggestions to keep you moving, learning, growing and succeeding:

A - Accountability. When we know someone is going to check on us we are far more likely to do something. Pick the people you surround yourself with carefully (even if you need to look outside your team). Aim for people who are not so "nice" that you know they will not effectively hold you to account. Pick people who stretch you and expect the best from you - who insist that you live up to your personal standards of integrity - When you say you will do something, you get it done!

C - Communication is the oxygen of any organisation. Communicate your goals to the relevant team members/people. Track your goals. Speak up early when you need help and/or are going off course. Communicate with people when they ask you to do things that are not important - avoid the "yes" trap! Successful people know that saying "yes" to something is saying "no" to something else. Let people know what is important for you to do. Think about where do you add the most value and do that! Feedback to your team - feedback is food of champions and ensures greater levels of buy-in and understanding.

T - Time is finite. Make time every day to work on the most important things. I am a huge fan of 'time zoning' - scheduling your tasks in your calendar. When you communicate with your team that you need 30mins-2hrs uninterrupted to achieve "x" it can be a huge motivator, and the focused time can allow you to get into your 'flow'. Look to use your smaller chunks of time better - a highly focused 10-30 mins can achieve a lot more than a interrupted morning.

I - Intentional focus is vital. Have a plan. Know what it is that you want to achieve before you start. Learn to stop after a task to be clear on what to do next. Ask if youneed to do it. Value your time - Be intentional.  Interruptions are the thief of focus and destroyer of productivity, and a lack of focus attracts interruptions.

O - Ongoing action is an amazingly powerful tool. You are the sum of your habits. Getting organised and establishing a routine can be immensely powerful. Could you partner up with someone to achieve a goal - walk 15mins every lunch time, call 5 clients every morning before 10am, plan your following activity every night before leaving work. Regular action done consistently yields large results. Examine your daily habits - which of them are constructive and which ones could do with changing?

N - Now is the time. No excuses - you can make an excuse or make a way! Action is a motivator. Just start.

We look back to learn. We look forward in hope. We live in the present. Watch your mindset as you act. Live. Learn. Improve. Repeat.

Nelson Mandela put it well, "I never fail. I either win or I learn".

Take your learning, apply your learning and succeed!

How prepared are you?

Earthquakes pack a powerful reality punch. Standing in various doorways, calling kids out of bed, feeling the ground rolling under your feet and watching things fall over, while every hanging thing sways dangerously back and forth, reminds one very abruptly of one’s mortality. It is doubly sobering to then see how lucky you have been when pictures show houses looking more like a war zone with roads and railway lines bent and torn.