Many people look longingly at retirement as the time in life when you will finally be able to relax with no pressure. In the interim, we have holidays. The risk is that it is used as ‘catch-up’ time rather than the rest and recuperation we tout it as. Whether we are rushing around catching up with family and friends, or attending social functions, or using the quiet time to clear emails and “just” finish that last little bit of a project that “will allow me to come back next year a lot fresher!”
The illusion of retirement is rose tinted by hectic holidays, giving it a heavenly hue of a serene paradise. Speak to anybody who has been retired for any length of time and you will quickly have a much clearer picture - without purpose, the days drag on interminably. Many people wish they had developed a hobby, sporting interest or group of friends or something while they were younger. Time waits for no-one and looking back wistfully is something many of us have an opportunity to avoid.
How do you live with no regrets? There are many wonderful ideas around this but for this time of year I thought I would share one: REST
Relax - Plan to do something (ideally lots of) whatever helps you to relax. Some people like to read a book, others love to travel and see new and beautiful things, some are active relaxers - choosing to do something physical and rewarding that helps them disconnect from work. “Every now and then go away, have a little relaxation, for when you come back to your work your judgment will be surer. Go some distance away because then the work appears smaller and more of it can be taken in at a glance and a lack of harmony and proportion is more readily seen.” Leonardo da Vinci
Escape your routine. Do something a little different. Break the normal mould and routine of your life. A change is as good as a holiday. “Sometimes it's important to work for that pot of gold. But other times it's essential to take time off and to make sure that your most important decision in the day simply consists of choosing which color to slide down the rainbow.” Douglas Pagels
Stillness holds magic. In a world where survival often feels like it is dictating the need to become the perfect ‘human doing’ there is a deep joy to be found in being. “When was the last time you spent a quiet moment just doing nothing - just sitting and looking at the sea, or watching the wind blowing the tree limbs, or waves rippling on a pond, a flickering candle or children playing in the park?” Ralph Marston
Think about different things. Allow your mind to rest and be creative, to solve a puzzle and day dream, to marvel at the wonders of creation and do nothing more than watch a cloud float across the sky. “Your mind will answer most questions if you learn to relax and wait for the answer.” William S. Burroughs
However you relax do take time over the holidays to rejuvenate your body mind and soul and bring your best self into 2019.
Here’s to your success!