Keys To Relationship
We all have strengths that can bring a richness and wholeness to friendships and relationships. These positive attributes and qualities are at their best when we focus on looking for what is right in others. Our STRENGTH is the key to stronger relationships.
Seeing and appreciating others strengths as a positive contribution to the team makes people feel appreciated, seen and safe. It is also a sign of maturity that you are able to let others shine by acknowledging that their strengths are valuable and needed, rather than seeing them as a sign of deficiency in yourself.
Take time to understand. Many of life's challenges could be overcome if people took a bit more time at the beginning of relationships, projects and discussions to truly be fully present and listen with the intent of understanding.
Rely on others. People need to know they matter and that what they personally do makes a positive difference. You can get more done when there is trust in a team and each person contributes in their areas of skill and expertise.
Ensure clarity in the values that guide the relationship. When these values are transparent, you can assume the best in people, even when they approach things differently to you. Clear values serve as a foundation: helping to assess alignment with the goals; keeping what's important at the forefront; and allowing room for diversity in the details and approaches - as long as they stay within the main parameters
Notice what others are doing and affirm the behaviour and actions you want more of. What gets rewarded with praise gets repeated.
Gather people with different skills. When you create teams where people can do what they do best it removes the “boring & draining” work from others who are not naturally enthused in those areas. Each person working in their strength increases engagement, enjoyment and makes any task or project easier to complete.
Tell people you appreciate them. I am a big fan of the mantra “catch people doing things right”. People need to be seen and heard. When people feel appreciated it increases commitment, loyalty and productivity.
Heart of care - people do not care how much you know until they know how much you care. When you care about people you are more likely to bring the best out of them. When people are free to work in their areas of strengths, relationships blossom and unlock the potential that unity and camaraderie can bring.
